My last blog was sent at Thanksgiving and I have missed keeping in touch with you. My computer stopped receiving the internet and now I'm back online. So Happy Hanukah, Merry Christmas, and Happy New year everybody!
At this time of year I think of all the new year's resolutions that were made and wonder how people are doing. I was at the grocery store yesterday and noticed the shopping cart of the woman in front of me, which had a huge bag of kale. She was asking the butcher lots of questions about making a stew for the first time. Perhaps it was a coincidence or perhaps she was making some new diet changes in the new year. As someone who used to hate kale and now loves it, I thought..._oh, I hope that goes well for her._
You see, sometimes I think we make resolutions and aim a bit high instead of making little changes along the way. Perhaps her stew will be amazing and she'll be off to a great start or perhaps she'll find the kale to be too bitter, as she didn't know that adding a citrus of some kind really softens the bitter flavor. It took me a long time to love kale. I started to use it in smoothies and now I have a couple of amazing go-to salads that are part of my monthly meal plan. But it has literally taken me years to enjoy the flavor.
Just like with making healthier diet changes, changing our plans towards building a family may take time to unfold. Whether it's considering IVF after trying without medical intervention or moving towards adoption, it takes a bunch of little steps to get to the baby. It may take you awhile to decide to change gears on your approach; you may need to read a few books on the topic of egg donation or talk to others who used a sperm donor. It takes time to grieve the losses along the way to this child too. I know a client who would take a 6 month break in-between each failed IVF cycle until she received a positive pregnancy test and 9 mos (more like 10) later held her daughter for the first time. Some of this process just takes time. Be gentle with yourself, but not so gentle that you do nothing. That's why I'm here! There's a happy medium of taking some steps and resting, just like with your New Year's resolutions.
P.S. I'd love to hear any resolutions that you may have created. You can reply to this newsletter directly if you'd like to share them with me. For this year, I started my own version of ["The Miracle Morning"](http://www.miraclemorning.com/), although I started it in December as I find I create better momentum when I start it before January 1st. I now wake up 60-75 minutes before anyone else int he family and I practice energy medicine, yoga, journaling, meditation and 3 things I'm grateful for. At the end of my day, I journal what might have tweaked me and I do some eft-[tapping](https://www.thetappingsolution.com/what-is-eft-tapping/), I write down three things that I'm grateful for and three amazing things that happened and I close with a short visualization. I find that I am way more patient and understanding on the days that I follow through on my practice, and on the days I don't... Well, let's just say I feel sorry for my husband.